WTF?! Cynthia Nixon… Hurting the Cause?
Cynthia Nixon has been catching a lot of flack lately for an interview she gave in which she described a speech she gave where she seemed to insinuate that being gay is a choice. Specifically, she said, “I’ve been straight and I’ve been gay, and gay is better.” She went on to say:
“For me, it is a choice. I understand that for many people it’s not, but for me it’s a choice, and you don’t get to define my gayness for me. […] Why can’t it be a choice? Why is that any less legitimate? It seems we’re just ceding this point to bigots who are demanding it, and I don’t think that they should define the terms of the debate. I also feel like people think I was walking around in a cloud and didn’t realize I was gay, which I find really offensive. I find it offensive to me, but I also find it offensive to all the men I’ve been out with.”
It’s no secret that many anti-gay bigots see being gay as a choice and at least partially use it as justification for their hate-filled rhetoric, so for a member of the LGBT community to ostensibly intimate that this notion is true is obviously detrimental.
Cynthia Nixon’s problem is that she’s a very sexually progressive person in a very sexually oppressive world.
Given that society still doesn’t see human sexuality as being as fluid as Cynthia and a lot of people within the LGBT community do, I don’t think her statements were particularly wise given the current political atmosphere, but I get what she’s trying to articulate. The fact of the matter is that Cynthia has dated both men and women, but, at present, has chosen to enter into a committed relationship with a woman. Bisexuality is not an uncommon human occurrence by any means.
The fact of the matter is that human sexuality is not as cut and dry as people like to think. Cynthia’s entire argument was that humans shouldn’t be expected to choose their sexuality, and to remain restricted within the confines of that label. It speaks to both her intellect and the ignorance of the majority of the American population that her words have been taken so out of context and been so grossly misconstrued. A person should neither have to justify being in a relationship with a person of the opposite sex, nor the same sex.
It really comes down to happiness: even if a person’s sexuality were a leisurely choice, who’s to say we should deprive them of the choice to love whomever they want, as long as it brings them joy and isn’t harming anyone else?
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